It’s not the beginning of Valentine’s Day that can be the hardest for a ‘single lady’. In one sense, you’ve known the day is coming, and you know what it holds in store. The day can go by in quite a manageable way — especially when receiving the heart-warming messages that may come from family and friends who truly care about and love you.

It is the end of the day for which you have to watch out. The end of the day is when you let your guard down.

The day is done, but your mind is just getting started — it counts up the years of Valentine misfortunes; it tells you how old you are and what you don’t have. It makes what other people have seem so glow-y and sparkly, and compares you to that. This is the lens from which your mind will try to get you to see your life today.

Your mind will never do you justice on Valentine’s Day, if you give it control — single or not! The mind always has a lens through which you are looking at your life. Today, don’t let it control you. Change this lens to one that sees the amazing and epic love that is already yours. This ‘V-Day’, look at your life through God’s lens of love to see all that you do have. “Don’t be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.” (Romans 12:2)

Whether you’re single or not, and even if you are married, you’re first love should never be a man. I surely do love my husband with all my heart and to the depths of my soul, but He is not my Savior, and he did not love me first. 1 John 4:19 says “We love Him because He first loved us.” God loved me long before any person could.

Thinking of God’s love for you on Valentine’s Day should never stop. You are not remembering His love for you today because you are single! No! You are viewing life through His lens of love because He is the author of love in your life, and always will be. Think of Him on every Valentine’s Day for all your life.

Talking about you, Jeremiah 31:3 says “I have loved you with an everlasting love…with lovingkindness I have drawn you.” Even in a natural relationship, you have to let yourself be loved. Receive God’s lovingkindness by which He is drawing you today. Let yourself be drawn.

As those thoughts come at the end of the day, turn to the comfort of the Word. Let it wash your soul and mind. Let it change the lens through which you are viewing yourself. As Romans 12:2, above, tells us, only after that renewing of the mind are we able to prove — or even see! — what that perfect will of God is for us. Let these scriptures below remind you of all that is good in your life; let them remind you of His amazing love and faithfulness; and let them remind you of His promise to meet the desires of your heart, and to give to you every good thing.

Then, one day, when you can say “I have found the one whom my soul loves”, your heart can still be anchored in the love of God, from which all human love abounds.

Whether you are ‘single’ or not, this Valentine’s Day or the next, know that you are never alone — not because of the person sitting beside you — but because, as He told Joshua in Chapter 1:5 of that book, God “will never leave you or forsake you.” Your first love will never be the person you exchange cards or share a meal with — It will always, only be Him.

Love Him and receive His love this Valentine’s Day, and it will always be enough.

Scriptures for your heart

Psalm 73:26 “My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the Rock and firm Strength of my heart and my Portion forever.”

Isaiah 54:5 (*My favorite ‘Single Ladies’ scripture) “For your Maker is your Husband–the Lord of hosts is His name–and the Holy One of Israel is your Redeemer”

Jeremiah 31:3 “Yes, I have loved you with an everlasting love; therefore with loving-kindness have I drawn you and continued My faithfulness to you”  CEV: “I have loved you with a love that lasts forever.”

James 4:5 “The Spirit Whom He has caused to dwell in us yearns over us and He yearns for the Spirit [to be welcome] with a jealous love”

Psalm 69:16  “Hear and answer me, O Lord, for Your loving-kindness is sweet and comforting; according to Your plenteous tender mercy and steadfast love turn to me.”

Revelation 2:4 NKJV “…you have left your first love”  v5 MSG:”Turn back! Recover your dear early love. No time to waste…”

Revelation 1:5,6 ESV “To Him who loves us and has freed us from our sins by His blood and made us a kingdom, priests to His God and Father, to Him be glory and dominion forever and ever.”

Psalm 37:3-7 “Trust (lean on, rely on, and be confident) in the Lord and do good; so shall you dwell in the land and feed surely on His faithfulness, and truly you shall be fed. Delight yourself also in the Lord, and He will give you the desires and secret petitions of your heart. Commit your way to the Lord (roll and repose each care of your load on Him); trust also in Him and He will bring it to pass. And He will make your uprightness and right standing with God go forth as the light, and your justice and right as the shining sun of the noonday. Be still and rest in the Lord; wait for Him and patiently lean yourself upon Him…”

Joshua 23:14 “Know in all your hearts and in all your souls that not one thing has failed of all the good things which the Lord your God promised concerning you. All have come to pass for you; not one thing of them has failed.”

Psalm 84:11 “For the Lord God is a Sun and Shield; the Lord bestows grace and favor and glory (honor, splendor, and heavenly bliss)! No good thing will He withhold from those who walk uprightly.”

Colossians 3:2-3  “Set your minds and keep them set on what is above (the higher things), not on the things that are on the earth. For you have died, and your [new, real] life is hidden with Christ in God.”

(All references are in the Amplified version, unless otherwise stated)